People are great, until they aren’t. You’ll have some great loves, wonderful friends, and caring family. And you’ll have some not-so-great versions of all of those. I am always amazed when people don’t know how to separate those great relationships from the terrible relationships. It’s difficult to identify which is which, but it is important. Those greats – cherish them. Build on them. Some of them will be there for your life. But the not-so-greats are the toughies, and the real trick to figure out.
You’ll have healthy relationships, you’ll have relationships with a cold, and then you have cancerous relationships. Like actual cancer, it’s important to identify the bad relationships early and remove them before it’s too late. I don’t mean that every time someone is late you need to find new friends, but that guy that keeps borrowing money from you, or the one that you spend most of your time arguing with – know when to end it.
Over the years (I might be too young to use that phrase), I have seen people do some silly things. If you are reading this in high school, you’ll have no doubt seen the kid that falls in with the bad crowd. They go from A’s to D’s, they start missing school, etc. That doesn’t stop with school. Even into adulthood, you’ll have people around you that will involve you in unnecessary problems if you let them. It might be general drama (that person that always has a world ending problem), it might be drugs, it could be just be that the relationship is a drain on you emotionally.
Know when to get out. When your friend gets you into trouble with the law, or if you actually have to worry about your physical well being, it’s time to find new friends. In fact, if you’ve gotten this far, you’ve probably waited too long. When you can’t remember what you liked about your significant other, leave. You aren’t doing yourself any favors staying. There is something to be said for loyalty, and there is also things to say about masochism.
But don’t forget – forgive the forgivable, and hold on to the people that are positive influences in your life.
People are great, until they aren’t. You’ll have some great loves, wonderful friends, and caring family. And you’ll have some not-so-great versions of all of those. I am always amazed when people don’t know how to separate those great relationships from the terrible relationships. It’s difficult to identify which is which, but it is important. Those greats – cherish them. Build on them. Some of them will be there for your life. But the not-so-greats are the toughies, and the real trick to figure out.
You’ll have healthy relationships, you’ll have relationships with a cold, and then you have cancerous relationships. Like actual cancer, it’s important to identify the bad relationships early and remove them before it’s too late. I don’t mean that every time someone is late you need to find new friends, but that guy that keeps borrowing money from you, or the one that you spend most of your time arguing with – know when to end it.
Over the years (I might be too young to use that phrase), I have seen people do some silly things. If you are reading this in high school, you’ll have no doubt seen the kid that falls in with the bad crowd. They go from A’s to D’s, they start missing school, etc. That doesn’t stop with school. Even into adulthood, you’ll have people around you that will involve you in unnecessary problems if you let them. It might be general drama (that person that always has a world ending problem), it might be drugs, it could be just be that the relationship is a drain on you emotionally.
Know when to get out. When your friend gets you into trouble with the law, or if you actually have to worry about your physical well being, it’s time to find new friends. In fact, if you’ve gotten this far, you’ve probably waited too long. When you can’t remember what you liked about your significant other, leave. You aren’t doing yourself any favors staying. There is something to be said for loyalty, and there is also things to say about masochism.
But don’t forget – forgive the forgivable, and hold on to the people that are positive influences in your life.
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